I am looking for someone to make a cool main navigation bar for me on my website
That's probably where you're going wrong in your thinking. What's your idea of a cool nav bar?
My thoughts: Nav bars are not meant to be exciting or 'cool'. Great nav bars make sure your customer can get to your products as quickly as possible without confusion of fuss. They also should not be such a dominant design piece that they take the spotlight away from the product. So Minimal (or plain) could be perfect.
If you are working with a designer with experience, don't be so quick to just cut and run as you'd be wasting everyones time.
As you seem to have an idea of what you want you should work with the designer, be clear on what you like and dislike, and be open minded to what the nav bar is for. Remember, it's actually ok if you don't love the navigation bar (although it would be nice if you did) as it's not for you - it's for your customers.
If you want to vent, this subforum isn't the right place for that.
@james
Maybe. It can be handy for a decent rant every now and again! Good rants can end up have good suggestions.